Romans 13:8-10

When I was growing up, we had a rule in our house that if there was something to be shared by two kids, one split it and the other got to choose. So, if it was a piece of cake we were sharing, I might get to divide the slice in two, and my sister got to choose which one she wanted. This also applied to things like chores. Mom might say, “I want the grass cut, the dishes washed, the bathtub scrubbed, and the windows washed.” My brother would say, “One person washes dishes and cuts the grass, the other does windows and the tub.” Then, I would get to pick whether I wanted to do one chore list or the other.*
Now, Mom was using human nature against us because people are inherently selfish. We always want the best for ourselves. So, if you are not the one getting to choose what you want, you will make the two options as fair as possible so there isn’t a “bad choice.” This is the epitome of self-love—choosing what is best for one’s self. 
Loving other people is counter-intuitive. Loving others means choosing what is best for another at one’s own expense. If I love you, I am willing to disadvantage myself to do what is best for you. Our culture has this incredibly twisted. In popular movies, music, and TV shows, you might hear someone say something like, “I love her so much! She makes me feel special, and she is so beautiful.” Another way that could be expressed is, “She tells me I am awesome, and I like to look at her” or “I really love myself a lot.” What you don’t hear a lot of  is, “I want what is best for her, so I am going to get a job, move out of my mom’s house, work hard to be a responsible adult, have the hard conversations with her to help her be the best person she can be, etc.”
Love is a wonderful thing, but it is about difficult, strong choices. If we truly loved other people—choosing what is best for them at our own expense—all other social rules and regulations would be superfluous. 
Romans 13:8-10  Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.  9 The commandments, "You shall not commit adultery, You shall not murder, You shall not steal, You shall not covet," and any other commandment, are summed up in this word: "You shall love your neighbor as yourself."  10 Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.
*Easy choice—grass and dishes. Our house had a ton of windows, and mom had a thing about tubs. You could scrub till your fingers bled, but when you told her you were done…well, you weren’t—the woman loves a clean tub. :)

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